Everything is energy, including human beings. Energy constantly shifts and changes but generally interacts with similar energy. If you look at who people are engaging with and most supportive of, you will see that their energy resonates with the people who are most like them in some way.
Energy is a powerful force in human relationships. It’s not just about physical presence but the invisible connections that bind us. When looking at resonating energies, we know that similar vibes attract each other. This attraction is often subconscious but profoundly influences who we connect with and how.
There are many different levels of understanding and consciousness. These variations aren’t about being better or worse but simply different. If the people in your inner circle support individuals who’ve wronged you, evaluating whether they are truly aligned with you and should be in your life is essential.
Many individuals seem kind and virtuous on the surface, but getting to know them often reveals their true nature. Manipulative behaviors can be well-disguised; sometimes, a person’s facades can fool intelligent adults. It’s not necessarily a reflection of poor character to be unable to see someone for who they authentically are, as it could be a lack of discernment. However, engaging in close relationships with individuals who don’t see or acknowledge a suspicious character can inadvertently harm those who see through the deception.
If someone listens to another person slandering you and doesn’t defend you, or worse, justifies the slander, that person might be your family member or acquaintance, but they are not your friend. A true friend stands by you, defending your honor when you’re not around. It’s a simple but powerful test for identifying the real allies in your life.
With time and experience, many of us develop the ability to see people for who they are, even when those around us may remain deceived. Clarity in understanding others comes gradually and must be realized. Some people may never achieve it, while others choose to ignore the truth of someone because it serves their interests.
Socializing is like a giant spider’s web, connecting everyone together and affecting us deeply whether we realize it or not. This interconnectedness means we need to be mindful of who we engage with, how often, and who they engage with. Looking at the people who individuals in our inner circle support and invest themselves into can show us if we share the same values and vibrational frequency.
The individuals we choose to support and share our lives with speaks volumes about what we contribute to this world. It matters who we appease and invest our limited time and energy into. By supporting particular people, we are helping them to fulfill their agenda, which could be bettering the world or harming others. It’s crucial to get to know and find out who a person really is before choosing to ‘take their side.’
It doesn’t matter whether someone is a family member or a person you consider to be a friend; anyone who is friends with your enemies is not concerned with your best interests. They don’t care or respect you enough to disagree with someone bad-mouthing you. It’s an act of self-love to distance yourself from those relationships. Your energy is sacred and should be reserved for people who respect and support you, even when you’re not there.
To achieve a successful life, it’s crucial to have the strength and self-love to distance yourself from people who don’t authentically care about you. Don’t give them access to you. Who we surround ourselves with is the most important factor in how happy and healthy we are.1 It’s not about being harsh or judgmental towards others; it’s about preserving your well-being and maintaining a positive energy flow in your life.
Investing in people who truly resonate with you and love you is the key to success. These relationships will nurture your spirit and contribute positively to your journey. Reserve your sacred energy for those who genuinely value you and are on a similar path.
More to consider…
Can energy dynamics change over time?
Yes, energy dynamics can evolve as individuals grow and change. It’s essential to assess relationships periodically to ensure there is still a genuine alignment.
How can you tell if someone is aligned with you?
Someone who aligns with you will consistently uplift and support you. They won’t speak badly about you behind your back. They will defend you even when you’re not around. Their actions will match their words. Most importantly, their presence in your life will enhance it, not make it worse.
What are some signs of a manipulative person?
Manipulative people often use charm and flattery initially but eventually exhibit controlling and patronizing behaviors, gossip, drama, and a lack of compassion.
How do social media interactions affect energy dynamics?
Social media interactions significantly impact energy dynamics, even as simple as ‘”Likes’” and comments. They can either support positive connections or inadvertently reinforce negative associations.
What steps can you take to distance yourself from harmful relationships or relationships that are not aligned?
First, give yourself time to grieve and come to a place of acceptance. Set clear boundaries, then gradually reduce interaction until you no longer communicate frequently. Work on surrounding yourself with supportive people who share your values and genuinely care about you. Join online or local special interest groups, which will assist you in meeting new people for potential friendships.
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Footnotes:
- https://research.ebsco.com/c/ylm4lv/search/details/byqq4uqh2v/details?limiters=RV%3AY&q=Harvard+Grant+Study+of+Adult+Development%3A+1938%E2%80%932022. ↩︎
